Why Everybody Hates Breastfeeders

Mislactony is probably a word you had never heard of, but I’ll bet you have heard of misogyny.

Misogyny is: Misogyny (pron :mi-soj-uh-nee) is:

The hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women.

Mislactony is a word I made up, (What? You can do that???) sure, why not.

Mislactony: (pron.:/ mis-lak-tuh-nee is:The hatred or dislike of breastfeeding. Mislactony can be manifested in numerous ways including discrimination against breastfeeding women, denigration of breastfeeding and women who breastfeed, violence (verbal or otherwise) against women who breastfeed and the sexual objectification of women in such a way that interferes with breastfeeding.

I made up this word because I believe there is a singular culture that sits alongside misogyny and it is the process whereby breastfeeding women and advocates are denigrated, undermined, treated with verbal violence, objectified, sexualised and discriminated against.

Some of you reading this will take this as a cue to roll your eyes. No WAY you think, breastfeeding women have it ALL, not only do they think they are gods gift to human kind, but they are smug know it alls that get government support AND a bigger cup size. How dare they complain?

But the truth of the matter is that women who breastfeed are still in the minority, the WHO advises that less than 40% of infants less than six months of age are exclusively breastfed worldwide. When you look at figures at 12 months and 2 years, breastfeeding becomes very niche indeed. Women who breastfeed are still excluded from basic rights such as fair employment or being allowed to eat in public. Breastfeeding is still both actively and passively undermined, and people who advocate for breastfeeding are still openly criticised and bullied.

There are people who actively hate breastfeeding and all boob kind and there are people who undermine breastfeeding while at the same time purporting to support it. For many women the pressure to not breastfeed is strong and sometimes it is relentless.

Despite all of this, many people still think that breastfeeding and breastfeeding advocacy is a sanctimonious and blessed pastime reserved only for the self indulgent, privileged or the very stubborn.

 So what does mislactony look like? A lot like misogyny

Control of attire: When women are told how much or how little they can wear, or what style of clothing they can wear, this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman is told to ‘cover up’ ‘feed discretely’ or be ‘modest’ this is mislactony.

Reduced rights in employment: When women are excluded from employment or receive lesser pay or prestige based on their sex, this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman is refused employment or she experiences discrimination based on her lactation status, this is mislactony. In NZ 38% of all women who stop breastfeeding at 3 months, do so because they must return to work.

Socially acceptable derogatory terms:  When a woman is called a feminazi, bull dyke lezzo or butch bulldog for requesting equal rights, this is misogyny. When a lactivist is called ‘the breastapo’ or a ‘BF Nazi’ or a ‘tit hitler’ for requesting equal rights, this is mislactony.

Body autonomy: When a woman is not afforded the rights to her own body this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman is told that her breasts are for her husband, or that she is simply not allowed to breastfeed, this is mislactony.

Derogatory terms based on sex: When a woman is called a bitch, a slut, a whore, a witch or other gender based insults, this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman is called a cow or similar based on the function of her breasts, this is mislactony.

Control of basic day to day activities: When a woman is prevented from leaving the house, is not permitted to drive or perform other normal day to day activities, this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman is told to ‘stay at home’ to feed their baby or ‘express to feed’ or simply to bottlefeed rather than feed in public, this is mislactony.

Denigration of specifically female functions: When women are degraded based on their physical attributes or their sex, this is misogyny. When a breastfeeding woman has the act of breastfeeding compared to defecating, urinating or other acts that are considered unpleasant this is mislactony.

Controlling of how we manifest: When women are told how to behave to meet certain societal expectations of sexiness, attractiveness and modesty, this is misogyny. When breastfeeding women are told how they must breastfeed, how long they must breastfeed, when they must breastfeed. This is mislactony.

When support systems are removed: When support networks or systems that are essential to women specifically, such as rape crisis, fertility support and women’s refuge are removed, maligned or attacked, this is misogyny. When support systems such as volunteer service La Leche League are attacked or there is limited access to medical staff who are trained in lactation support, not enough lactation consultants or even medical staff who actively undermine breastfeeding, this is mislactony.

 When advocacy is shut down: When women who talk about feminism or womens rights are shut down using predictable rhetoric such as accusations of misandry or man hating. This is misogyny. When breastfeeding women who advocate for breastfeeding are shut down with predictable rhetoric such as accusing them of hating on formula feeding mums, this is mislactony.

When inherent abilities are undermined: When women are told they are inferior simply on the basis of their sex, this is misogyny. When breastfeeding women are told that their milk is inadequate, runs out of goodness or that their breasts are inadequate, this is mislactony.

Sexual double standards: When women are judged based on their sexuality in ways that men are not, or are required to be both sexy and virginal at the same time, this is misogyny. When women who are breastfeeding are told to keep their breasts concealed, that no one needs to see that or that they are disgusting and getting a thrill from feeding their child, while at the same time we have breasts plastered all over our malls, billboards and magazines and sex is used to advertise almost everything under the sun, this is mislactony.

I know that to many of you a lot of these seem extreme or tenuous, but the thing is, they are not. These are real incidents and they happen on a daily basis. If we want to give every woman a chance to best meet her breastfeeding goals, it is not to tell them how breast is best, or how bad formula is. It is simply to stop all the mislactony!

Pina Colada Nursing Cookies

I love nursing cookies, when I was pregnant I made up a few batches and froze them into a dough lots. This meant I could bake them up when I had the need for some oaty goodness. And don't worry, people who are not lactating can eat them too. My husband is a particular fan, he ate four in a row while massaging his chest and declaring he could feel the 'milk flowing'. 

Earlier on I had posted a recipe for nursing cookies which was basically a slightly altered version of the Lactation cookies that drifts around on various internet forums. Since this post I have refined my recipe to a point of amazing deliciousness. Pina Colada Cookies – mouth heaven! Here is the recipe.

Ingredients:

1 cup butter or 3/4 cup rice bran oil
1 cup white sugar 
1 cup  soft brown sugar
3 heaped tablespoons of golden syrup
4 tablespoons water
2 tablespoons flaxseed/linseed meal
2 large eggs
2 cups maida flour/stoneground wholewheat flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
3 cups whole oats, organic if you can get them
1 cup of white chocolate chips
1 cup of candied pineapple coarsely chopped
1 cup of shredded coconut
1 cup of almonds
4 tablespoons of brewers yeast
1 tsp cinnamon


Directions:

Preheat oven to 180 Celsius 

Combine linseed meal and water in a small cup (I usually grind my own linseed as ground linseed goes rancid very fast) and set to one side.

Cream butter or oil and sugar, slowly add the eggs once at a time and then stir in the linseed mixture, add your golden syrup

 Sift together dry ingredients except for the oats, chocolate chips and coconut and gently add to the creamed mixture. Then stir in the remaining oats, coconut and chocolate chips.

Scoop or drop onto baking sheet, preferably double lined with baking paper to prevent the bottoms burning and sticking, the dough can be crumbly so a scoop helps.

Bake 8-12 minutes, depending on size of cookies. If you have serious bottom burning issues then you can wrap your baking sheets in tinfoil top and bottom. Black trays attract heat and burn the bottoms. Who knew?

Mastitis - Don't have a cow

When I was little I remember reading James Herriot, and one story that stuck with me was about a farmer whose one and only cow got mastitis. He couldn’t afford antibiotics and the cow was in bad shape.  James Herriot gently told the farmer that that cow would likely not make it and maybe she should be put down peacefully to prevent her suffering. The farmer told him to come back in the morning as he couldn’t bear to let her go just yet. When Dr Herriot returned in the morning he found an exhausted farmer and a chipper cow. To save his cow the farmer had sat up all night milking her and saved her life. That story always brought me to tears. I am a soft touch when it comes to animals.

Ever since then I have always associated mastitis with creatures of the bovine nature and hearing women talking about having mastitis always evoked a jarring contradiction for me. Which really talks about how our society approaches the topic of women lactating in a way. Luckily I have been able to leave that association behind and realise that mastitis can occur in any lactating mammal. Which is not lucky.

You can imagine my chagrin when a friend told me that upon her second bout of mastitis her dad told her that if she were a cow they would have her put down.

I was even less amused when a certain NZ celebrity of sorts made out that women who breastfeed are dairy cows, those sort of comparisons are not helpful and simply reinforce the idea that breastfeeding is an exception rather than the rule.

All of this aside, Mastitis is one of the bigger challenges of a breastfeeding mama, it can go from almost undetectable to extremely serious overnight and for many mamas it can also spell the end of breastfeeding. It doesn’t need to though if it is detected early and treated effectively.

How do I know if I have mastitis?

Usually there will be pain and inflammation, your breast may feel tender and hot.  You will also likely feel ‘fluey’ with a headache, fever and body aches. Without the fever or flu like symptoms it is unlikely that you have mastitis and more likely you have a blocked duct – which is a main cause for mastitis and should be treated immediately.  Visually the breast may have an apparent lump or red streaking at the site of the pain. Your milk may be lumpy, stringy or blood tinged and in some instances the elevated levels of sodium and chloride can make your milk taste saltier and baby can go on nursing strike.

What causes mastitis?

Mums who are worn down, tired, stressed and anaemic are at a higher risk of mastitis, but the main direct causes are blocked ducts, infection and possible allergic reaction. Blocked ducts are the most common cause. It’s interesting to note that mastitis has a much higher occurrence in countries where breastfeeding is done to schedule or is not truly on demand. Draining the breast frequently is a huge preventative factor. Engorgement can increase risk which is why it is so important to drain the breast, the supply and demand balance needs to be protected. Oversupply with limited feeding can lead to engorgement which can lead to blocked ducts or mastitis.
Other causes can be bacteria entering through a cracked nipple or damaged breast. Being in hospital is an increased risk factor as well.

How do I prevent mastitis?

Mastitis is most likely to occur in the first 2 weeks after birthing your baby, it’s very important in this period of time to let baby have uninhibited access to the breast, especially at night time. Because stress is such a key risk factor it is ideal to have as many people helping out as possible. Don’t try and be superwoman, even if you invested in the costume.  I’ve always thought the idea of a baby moon was lovely – where your feet don’t touch the ground for a month pretty much and you have family and friends there to see to your every need while you see to baby’s needs. This is different from the baby moons that travel agents promote where you go on a preggo holiday and have swollen ankles, heartburn and avoid deli foods in another country instead of at home.

The real key to preventing mastitis is the prevention and quick treatment of blocked ducts. Ensure that your bras fit well and are comfortable, when you sleep make sure your breasts aren’t compressed or obstructed and when you feed make sure the latch is nice and wide to ensure the breast is evenly drained. Blocked ducts should be massaged to free them and baby can be latched with the jaw or nose pointing to the blocked duct to ensure optimum drainage. A hot wheat bag before or during a feed can help loosen any blockage and ease inflammation.

The mantra Heat, Massage, Rest, Empty Breast is the basic first aid for plugged ducts AND mastitis.

Just as importantly lifestyle and what we eat can impact on our overall health. Advocates for natural health state that mastitis is a sign that you need to slow down and support your immune system. Keeping well hydrated and well rested  as well as eating nourishing foods is optimum.

How do I treat mastitis?

I’m the first person to seek alternatives to conventional treatments but in the instance of mastitis if it hasn’t resolved or started to resolve within 24 hrs or the symptoms are severe and worsening  then you need to seek medical assistance and usually the recommendation will be to take a course of antibiotics. I am not a huge fan of antibiotic overuse but in this instance they are well warranted.

Signs that a visit to the Doctor is necessary:

·         There is pus or blood present in your milk.

·         There is red streaking or marking on your breast

·         Your temperature increases suddenly

·         Symptoms are sudden and severe

·         You have broken skin on the nipple
  with obvious signs of infection. (redness, pus etc)

·         Both breasts are affected

·         Your baby is 2 weeks old or younger and/or
  you have recently been in the hospital.

However if the case is mild or slow moving then you do not necessarily have to take antibiotics and can seek to treat with alternative methods. All of the following techniques can be used in conjunction with antibiotics as well unless your Dr advises there is a contraindication. 

The first and most important step is not to stop breastfeeding. Ceasing feeding will actually increase your risk of severe infectious mastitis and possible abscess. An abscess is no fun. Is usually involves drainage and then packing of the wound.

1.    Drain the breast, let baby feed as often as possible and from the affected breast – every 2 hrs is a good guide. If baby is on strike due to a milk flavor change then you can pump or hand express, sometimes pumping a little before the feed starts can help clear the worst of it meaning that baby will happily feed. However do not neglect the unaffected breast. Line the jaw or nose of baby up with the affected area. A great tactic is to dangle the breast into the mouth of your baby so that the whole breast drains freely

2.    Get plenty of Rest. A mother with mastitis should go straight to bed and stay there, take baby with you to feed and get loads of skin on skin time. Arrange for someone to do everything else for you. If they could go to the toilet for you as well that would be ideal.

3.    Heat the affected area with a wheat bag or hot flannel on the area before or during a feed. A hot shower beforehand is nice and a basin soak directly on the breast can help. Make up a hottish salty bowl of water and soak the breast in it. Adding a teaspoon of Epsom salts can help. Another soak to use one made of marshmallow, not the delicious fluffy candy, the marshmallow plant.

4.    Massage the affected area, when baby feeds massage towards the nipple, during a shower you can soap up a wide toothed comb and use that to massage any lumps or infected areas.

5.    Protect and boost the Immune system by taking a high dose of Vitamin C, 1000mg every hour on the hour for a short period can help boost your immune response.

Fresh garlic can be taken orally to assist, a couple of cloves freshly crushed and taken with a spoon full of honey or swallowed in pieces like tablets. You can take tablets but not the deodorised kind as allicin is the active component and is also the source of the garlicky smell. Echinacea or Oregon root tincture can also aid your body to fight off any infection. Echinacea works by boosting your natural killer cell action, there haven’t been any conclusive studies to show Echinacea is safe during breastfeeding but it has been shown to be safe for short periods of use in pregnancy which leads me t believe that it should be fine for use in lactating women. It certainly has not been shown to be dangerous.

I also swear by a high dose Vitamin D 1000iu - 10,000iu daily to support the immune system.

Susun Weed suggests using a tincture of pokeroot, a couple of drops a day in a glass of water. A mother I know swears by drinking chamomile tea in vast amounts when mastitis is indicated. As it has anti-inflammatory properties and is a mild sedative/pain reliever it would be a good adjunct to any of the other treatments.

6.    Using poultices can help address any pain directly, cool compresses can reduce inflammation and can be used alternating with hot compresses. Fenugreek, Rosemary and Dandelion are the most common ones. Rosemary is a strong antimicrobial as well as a circulatory stimulant. Dandelion helps reduce swelling and Fenugreek is a strong anti-inflammatory.  Cabbage leaves can be used to ease discomfort but be aware that they reduce supply which may not assist in the healing process.
A strong healing poultice is one made from comfrey and calendula, you can make this by blending comfrey and calendula together until it’s like gelatin before freezing into folded cloths.  Comfrey is a wonderful healer as is calendula. Calendula is a strong antiviral and antimicrobial when used topically.

A handy poultice to draw out heat and infection is grated potato, it has the added benefit of being cheap and readily available.

Some homeopathic remedies for mastitis are Phytolacca, Belladonna, Bryonia and Hepar Sulph - all 30c.

Phytolacca is good for slow moving infections or when the breast is lumpy and hot, Belladonna is for when it comes on hot red and fast and is worse on the right side, Hepar Sulph is for when you are getting chills and are irritable with sharp needle like pains and Bryonia is if you feel irritable and the pain from mastitis worsens with movement.

Some  women are so lucky they get repeat bouts of mastitis, if you thought one lot of mastitis was enough then imagine getting it every week. This is a huge issue for a few mamas and can spell the end to breastfeeding permanently. Luckily there is a lot that can be done to address it, with prevention being the key.  This article is a comprehensive guide on how to approach recurrent bouts of mastitis. If you try everything and it still continues, providing you are only getting mastitis in one breast you can actually successfully feed your baby from one breast only. If you want to keep breastfeeding and have tried everything else then this can be a workable solution to an unworkable situation.

So if you get mastitis, don’t have a cow, or be a cow but act quickly and give yourself a break. 

Boobs cont..

In the early days of breastfeeding I wandered around the house with no top on and the flaps of my maternity bra open like some weird mother goddess figure or bondage queen. It seemed like no longer had I put my boobs away after one feed that a grabby little mouth wanted to get at them again. They were sore, really sore and worn out poor tired boobs. The most important things bar nothing to prevent and heal sore nipples is correcting and perfecting the latch however to help you continue breastfeeding when the damage is done Here are a few things that can help pep them up again:


Lotions Potions and Recipes for Sore Boobs

Shower Oil

In the early days when I showered I had to hold my hands over the stinging nipples as the hot water really hurt them. To protect them I rubbed oil on them before getting into the shower and this really helped protect them as well as keep them supple.

1 cup extra virgin olive oil
4 drops of Lavender oil

Mix and place in a light tight container and store in a cool place. Great for boobs and preggy bellies.

Calendula Infused Oil

Calendula or Pot Marigold is a really common flower. Often planted alongside other plants to repel pests it has wonderful healing properties. If you don’t have any growing in your yard you can get seeds or plants from most garden shops and they are very easy to grow, mine grows like a weed. There are quite a few commercial calendula nappy or nipple creams, but they can be costly. If you infuse the calendula flower in oil you can use that oil on it’s own as a salve or lotion or include it is some other recipes like my bum balm.

3 cups of flowers
1 litre of extra virgin oil (any other carrier oil would be fine)

Pick as many flowers as you like don’t worry about picking too many, picking them simply encourages more growth. Make sure they are nice dry specimens without rain or dew on them. Spread them on news print or an old dry towel in a warm place out of direct sunlight. Airing cupboards or spare bedrooms are great. Once the flowers have wilted and are almost dry place them in a clean glass jar and cover with oil. Make sure there are no air bubbles or moisture trapped. After a week the oil should have infused and you can discard the flowers or turn them into a poultice. The resulting oil should be orange and can be used on skin, abrasions, bruises, rashes and blemishes.

Calendula Poultice

I used this poultice directly on my nipples to aid in healing. It really helped soothe and close the cracks I had. Either use the flowers left over from Calendula infused oil or get some fresh flowers and remove the petals. Cover the fresh petals with oil and macerate. Keep refrigerated for up to a week and when you want to use warm the flowers and apply to your breast around the nipple. Be sure to rinse of thoroughly before feeding the boob monster.

Warm saline soak

1 cup boiling water
1 tsp salt

Mix together and place in a wide bowl, dangle your boob in as hot as you can stand it. It may sting a little if you have cracks but it can also be quite soothing. Pat dry.

Cabbage Leaves

Keep a few large cabbage leaves cool in the fridge, if you have engorged breasts slip them into your bra. Don't over do though as it can reduce your milk supply. I would not recommend this course of action if you have supply issues.

Breastmilk

My midwife swears by this and she is right, squeeze a little breastmilk from the affected nipple and rub it on the cracked bit and let it dry.

Sunlight

Can't recommend it enough, it's free, healthy and quite calming as well. Gotta get that vitamin D

Hottie or Wheat Bag

If you have blocked ducts, engorged breasts or sore nipples a hottie or wheat bag can really soothe those enraged nungas.

Some other things that help...

Let bubs suckle the nipple which is less sore as the first suckle is the most active. Keep switching poitions with each feeding, thus avoiding pressure from the baby's mouth on the same part of the breast. Do not for gods sake stop feeding, boobs heal by frequent nursing with the passage of time. Even if it is cracked bleeding or infected your baby will not be harmed by suckling from you.

Exposure of nipples and breasts to air prevents growth of thrush. Avoid wearing bra for long hours of the day instead wear nursing bras with flaps. Then you too can look like a strange mother goddess or bondage queen....