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Wednesday, November 14, 2012
30 Ways with Puree
Having gone the Baby Led Weaning route we didn’t have a big use for purees and mashed food. However with our first boy I had stocked up on a whole lot of it intending to make my own delicious organic alternatives. My mum in law also kept our freezer well stocked in lovely seasonal produce that she had lovingly stewed and sieved. So once it became apparent we didn’t have a lot of use for it I devised a number of interesting ways to dispose of our lovely purees.
1. Freeze it into iceblocks, my sons love iceblocks in the bath and puree makes excellent non drip iceblocks.
2. Instead of sugar laden jam, use fruit purees to spread on toast.
3. I love porridge with a little fruit on the side, fruit puree is a low sugar healthy alternative.
4. A lot of baked goods are high in fat, you can use fruit puree to replace oil or butter content without losing moistness or flavour. These brownies are a great example made with black beans and prune puree.
5. Replacing eggs, just as above eggs are often used to put moistness into baking. If you run out, open a jar of puree instead. This muffin recipe is healthy and delicious.
6. If you have a dehydrator, fruit puree makes an excellent fruit leather for lunch snacks.
7. Cold cuts of meat or roasts are lovely with a side of fruit.
8. Edible finger painting, a fun game that you can lick off of your fingers when finished. Sensory fun for all.
9. If you have a really yummy fruit puree you can freeze it into icecubes for smoothies
10. Mixing fruit puree with chia seeds makes a delicious and nutritious jam.
11. If your child is all about the finger food, fruit puree makes a great dipping sauce
12. We have just discovered the addictive nature of tomato sauce in this household. Mixing it 50/50 with fruit or vegetable puree (carrots is my fave) is a great way of reducing sugar and salt intake while keeping that great t-sauce flavour.
13. If you are making a soup, stew, casserole or pasta sauces then puree can really bump up the veggie content and the flavour.
14. Instead of buying fruit yoghurt pots that are mostly sugar, add a little fruit puree to natural yoghurt. Yum
15. If you have a massive stash of apple puree then you can make apple butter.
16. If you have any savoury purees they can easily be added to rice or quinoa to make a nutritious risotto.
17. When you’ve had a stressful day with the kids a fruit puree will make a lovely face masque.
18. If you have guests coming over and have nothing for dessert ,then a packet of pastry and a jar of puree will whip up to a delicious batch of Apple McGinties in less than 15 minutes. Just spread the puree on one sheet, top with another sheet, bake, and done. Voila!
19. Add to apple pies or strudels for bulk when you are low on fresh fruit.
20. Make these yummy flapjacks to put into lunch boxes instead of sugary muesli bars. (just replace puree for juice)
21. On a hot day you can use fruit puree icecubes to make this delicious food processor sorbet
22. Stacked with icecream and cream in a parfait glass a puree will become a not so naughty dessert.
23. Soak some oats, grains and dried fruit overnight with a splash of water and some puree. You will have a delicious bircher muesli for breakfast.
24. A great child friendly dessert is this tasty baked apple custard with puree instead of diced apple.
25. When you’ve had one of those days use some of those fruit icecubes to chill yourself a delicious appletini.
26. If you have a teething baby fruit pure makes an excellent and edible frozen teether.
27. On a cold and rainy day make this divine black bean soup and instead of orange juice you can use an apricot or nectarine fruit puree.
28. Make this delicious small batch fruit chutney.
29. Pancakes are my favourite breakfast, topped with fruit puree they are a little less naughty.
30. Fruit puree makes a fabulous marinade for chops or chicken bits and an excellent glaze for hams.
And if all else fails. I guess you can bathe in it?
Thursday, October 11, 2012
My Baby Wearing Journey
My introduction into baby wearing was
fairly inauspicious. A kind friend gave me their elite front pack and I was an
instant convert. I loved wearing my wee boy, he loved it too. It was one of the
best gifts I had, it totally changed my parenting and for the better. Being up
at my height and being able to interact with the world was right up his alley.
He refused point blank to face inwards to me and instead demanded to be
outwards facing to enjoy the goings on around us while still being close enough
to cuddle. My absolute favourite thing was taking him on bushwalks, I would go
every week to wander through the forest with him, the freedom of being able to
go ‘off piste’ was great and not having to deal with a stroller in and out of
the car was really handy. It was safe to say my baby wearing addiction was
sealed. When he grew out of his front pack at 6ish months I invested in a
pocket sling and once again lived the high life of baby wearing. Supermarket shops
were a dream, having him close enabled him to interact with me but also kept
him from pulling everything off of the shelf and losing his business at me. The
only downside was that due to bad positioning and a pre-existing imbalance in my body it slowly pulled at my shoulder
making me uncomfortable, this threw my hip out of alignment and ended up with a
dodgy knee, wrist and about 6 months of physio. After this experience you think
I’d give it up. But I loved being close to my boy, and wearing him meant I
could out-manoeuvre any stroller on any terrain. So when he gave up wanting to
be carried at 2 years it was with a sigh I packed away my sling.
2 years later I got knocked up and started to research carriers again.
That is when I found out I was Doing. It.Wrong.
At first I was a bit shocked and defensive,
‘It worked for us’ was my response when I heard people talk about the dangers
of outwards facing and ‘crotch danglers’. I was absolutely certain that my boy
was fine therefore front packs were fine. He wanted to forwards face, so it
must have been right, right?
The truth is, front packs like the elite or the baby bjorn are not designed to be safe on baby’s hips or their wearer and cause not only a bad posture in the person wearing them but an unhealthy posture in baby. They are very trendy though, not a day goes by when a celebrity isn’t snapped with a baby dangling from their front. Narrow crotched baby carriers put pressure on the spine of baby and force the person wearing them to thrust their hips out. They also don’t support the hip joints as they should and can cause hipdysplasia. I was lucky that I had a big butty boy with big butty nappies. I was lucky that he grew out of the carrier before too long and I upgraded to a better carrier. (well better for him anyway).
I was lucky that I was surrounded by knowledgeable women who were also kind and understanding. I was never made to feel bad for my decisions or openly criticised, (thank you Conscious Parenting Dunedin) but I was provided with the right info to make an informed choice. At first I fought back against that informed choice. I demanded to know safe ways to carry my second boy forwards facing in case he was like his brother. I dove into a little pond of cognitive dissonance and wallowed in it for a while. After I got over myself I came to acknowledge I hadn't made the best decision carrier wise, I forgave myself and moved on. I learned that instead of outwards facing I could do a back carry which was more comfortable for both of us and enabled him to face out and me to free up my front. I learned how to position baby in a safe position for their hips and spine. I learned how to use a carrier without stuffing my body up.
And thus started the great baby wearing addiction of 2012, I am so at ease with baby wearing and so in love with the convenience, ease and closeness that I don't even miss our stroller – which I sold to pay some bills a few months ago. I now have a beautiful third hand manduca gifted to me by a wonderful friend, a second hand Storchenwiege woven wrap that I snapped up on a crunchy mums trading page and I still have my trusty pocket sling to use for short trips and as an emergency carrier in my purse for those delicious close snuggly carries. I cannot confirm or deny any perusal of sites offering the beautiful Northern Lights girasol wrap or the manduca limited edition carriers.
...and luckily for me there are LOADS of great resources out there to feed my addiction. Thank you Anna and Slingbabies!
And hooray for New Zealand Baby Wearing Week!
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
A pox on all your houses
The house has been struck by chicken pox,
after a winter of full on illnesses this seems like the last insult to injury.
But unlike the last litany of mystery bugs and viruses, Chicken Pox is
something I know how to deal with. It’s a familiar childhood illness,
ubiquitous and predictable. However knowledge on how to minimise Chicken Pox
effects is starting to wane and as such I am putting together a Chicken Pox
guide to help parents deal with this virus in a proactive and effective manner.
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Chicken Pox Painting by Annemarie Busschers |
Typical medical practice for managing chicken pox (Varicella zoster virus) is
to prescribe acyclovir as an antiviral in the early stages, paracetamol for fever, antihistamines
for itch and pinetarsol baths for itch as well. My concern with the first three
at least is the pressure they put on the liver and kidneys and the fact that
some of the adverse effects seem as bad if not worse than the infection itself.
I also worry that it is commonly children that are affected by Chicken Pox and
very rarely are these drugs tested on small children, Acyclovir in particular
is not recommended for under twos.
So if you want to take an alternative route
here is my guide to managing Chicken pox at home.
First here is a little overview on how chicken pox manifests:
First here is a little overview on how chicken pox manifests:
The Varicella zoster virus is extremely
contagious and has an almost 90% hit rate in people with no prior immunity. The
virus incubates for 10-21 days and you become contagious a couple of days
before the spots appear (sneaky isn’t it, this virus knows how to get around).
Chicken pox is usually spread by airborne droplets (coughing) and from the
liquid in the blisters. While it is highly communicable it is considered mild
and self limiting unless a complication arises. These complications usually
occur in compromised individuals who do not manage the illness well. Chicken pox is usually diagnosed by the
distinctive vesicular rash which forms primarily on the face, torso and groin
though it can appear anywhere including on the eye, in the ears and in the
mouth and throat. The rash forms fluid filled blisters which will eventually
burst and crust over. Once all the blisters have crusted there is no longer a
chance of contagion though your child may not be accepted back into society
until the marks have faded. (unclean unclean). Often people with Chicken pox
will have a low grade fever and nausea, usually manifesting up to four days
before the spots appear.
If you are pregnant, immune compromised or
have had a course of steroids recently then you are at high risk of
complications and seeing a doctor is advisable. If you are none of these and
you feel confident to manage the disease then it might be best to keep your
germs to yourself and stay out of the doctor’s waiting room.
Things to watch out for:
The rash does not start crusting after 5 days of infection and continues to worsen
The rash does not start crusting after 5 days of infection and continues to worsen
The fever worsens after a few days of
infection and does not let up
The blisters seem reddened or infected
Child seems listless and worsens instead of
improving
So how do you treat Chicken Pox?
First
stage: Exposure and Incubation
If your family have exposed and you feel
you may be incubating chicken pox (fever, runny nose, tiredness) then don’t be
a hero. Keep your kids at home and stay away from infants, pregnant women and
the elderly.
The first thing to do is ensure anyone
affected is well hydrated, keeping fluids up is very important.
The second thing to be aware of is
nutrition, people who are low in the amino acid L-lysine are at risk of
complications and increased severity of infection. Taking an additional
supplement of lysine while Chicken pox is circulating and once infection is
established is a good idea, these supplements are far more effective in the
incubation stage than when the pox has erupted. Also ensuring a strong immunity
by maintaining Vitamin D levels and maintaining good nutrition is a must.
Poorly nourished children who are low in essential nutrients are at a much
higher risk of complications.
So to
summarise supplements
Vitamin D
Vitamin C
Vitamin B complex
L-Lysine
Vitamin D
Vitamin C
Vitamin B complex
L-Lysine
Recommended dosage is 1000iu daily for
Vitamin D and 12mg of L-lysine per Kg of body weight in children over two.Taking Sodium ascorbate or Lipospheric Vitaman C in
a bolus dose when contact with Chicken pox can bolster the immune system, up to
2000mg over the course of the day can be easily tolerated though exceeding this
can cause an upset tummy, there is no hazardous upper limit with Vitamin C
though large doses can cause your bowels to be a bit more hasty. These doses
are a guide only. No upper limit has been established with Lysine, though
higher doses have been associated with gallstones.
If you prefer not to supplement then you
can stock up on lysine rich foods such as eggs, dairy, most nuts, red meat,
beans, fruit and veg, brewers yeast, mung bean sprouts and spirulina. It may also
be wise to avoid foods rich in L-arginine as arginine uses a similar pathway
for uptake in the body as lysine, therefore food high in arginine may increase
lysine requirements and reduce availability. Foods rich in arginine to be
avoided are chocolate, fish, coconut, wheat flours, carob, peanuts chickpeas,
raisins, brown rice and gelatine.
Getting sunshine will increase your D
intake but ensure it is large areas of skin for periods of 10-15 minutes at a
time, longer exposure will slowly reduce Vitamin D synthesis. Vitamin C can be
obtained though fresh fruit and vegetables, kiwifruit in particular is a good
source, but it must be fresh.Taking a B
complex is a good idea too, or eating vitamin B rich foods, such as avocados, oats, organ meats, legumes and brazil nuts.
Its really important to understand that
these supplementations or diet changes are a short term course of action to limit
the severity of Chicken pox and not a long term lifestyle choice.
Second
Stage: Rash appears
Once the rash appears treatment of Chicken
pox is more about ameliorating discomfort, preventing itching and reducing risk
of complication.
The skin is performing an important role at
this stage by maintaining an environment that prevents the spread of infection.
Our skin is usually dry with a high salt concentration due to sweat. These
conditions are not favorable for bacterial growth. Sweat and sebaceous skin
secretions also contain substances that kill bacteria. The skin is also associated with the lymph system as aperipheral lymph organ and acts as part of the adaptive immune response. It’s
important to let the skin do its job. The key to avoiding secondary infections
and complications, is to assist this natural defence system. Things that
prevent your skin from doing its job include over-bathing, poor nutrition, inappropriate
care of sores, dirty fingernails and scratching. A lot of common chicken pox
treatments actually increase risk of infection. Instead here is a list of
treatments that will reduce risk and aid healing.
Skin
Ph
Skin sweats salts and maintains a Ph that
is hostile to bacteria. Destroying this balance can lead the way to infection.
Avoid baking soda baths, as even though they reduce itch they will change the
ph and make the skin vulnerable. Heavy soaping and drying is also a bad idea.
If you are using baths to reduce itch then after each bath restoring the skin
Ph is a must. Daubing your child gently with a saline and cider vinegar mix
will help restore the right acidity and avoid bacteria from spreading. If your
child will tolerate it you can put this mix into a spray bottle.
Saline Vinegar mix
1 cup water
1 cup water
1 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon cider vinegar
Lavender
oil, Lavendula officinalis:
Lavender is fabulous for skin healing,
preventing infection and promoting healing. I source a local Pacific Blue genus
of Lavender that is low in camphor from arbordale lavender farm. This is gentle
enough to be applied neat but diluting it 1 part lavender oil to 9 parts
carrier oil is a best to avoid evaporation. This mixture can be applied
directly to the pox sores to take the itch out. I have used this on my boy and
he hasn't scratched once. A note on lavender, a study was done which indicated
that Lavender essential oil and tea tree oil were linked to breast tissue
growth in boys. This study was very poorly conducted and included only 3 test
subjects with absolutely no research done on what other products these children
were putting on their skin and in one instance one of the lavender products
cited as being an issue only negligible amounts of actual lavender in it. There
is far more science to indicate that artificial fragrances are an issue. In any
instance, the use of lavender oil for chicken pox is short term and for any
danger to the endocrine system to be present it would have to be long term
chronic use.
Chickweed, Stellaria media
Chickweed is a very cooling and soothing
herb, many chicken pox creams and lotions include this as a primary ingredient
as it will help stop the itching. Chickweed is a common weed (no surprises
there) and you may find you have it in the garden. If you do then you can actually
make your own chickweed itch salve. Here is the recipe.
Chickweed salve
1 litre of olive oil (extra virgin organic
if possible)
100 grams of beeswax
2-3 cups of chickweed (packed down)
Collect your chickweed after the morning
dew has lifted when it is nice and dry. Avoid harvesting it after rainfall.
Once picked shake excess dirt off of it and leave it to wilt somewhere cool and
out of direct sunlight. It should be withered in a couple of hours but
overnight is ideal. Once it has withered pack it into a clean glass jar and
cover with olive oil. Be sure to get any air-bubbles out and to cover any plant
material with at least an extra centimetre of oil. Put the jar somewhere warm
and dark for a couple of weeks. 3 days will do at a pinch. You can gently warm
the oil in a saucepan before pouring it over the chickweed which will make the
process faster, but this degrades the oil. Better to be patient.
Once the chickweed has infused into the oil
you melt the beeswax in a saucepan and add 100mls of the oil. Once it is all
liquid you can add the rest of the oil slowly, do not allow the oil to overheat
for the reasons stated above, once all combined pour it into containers
promptly before it sets. If you can’t be bothered with the balm step it’s fine
to use it just as an oil.
Homeopathy
Not everyone’s cuppa but if you are that
way inclined then the following remedies can be of use. Homeopathy can be used
to manage all stages and manifestations of pox.
Rhus tox: This is the key homeopathic remedy for Chicken pox and should be offered in 30c or 200c potency when itching worsens
Rhus tox: This is the key homeopathic remedy for Chicken pox and should be offered in 30c or 200c potency when itching worsens
Mez: This is the top remedy for itch and relentless scratching.
Varicella
nosode: This is a remedy made from the Varicella
virus. You would take this to try and avoid catching Chicken pox but because in
homeopathic literature Chicken pox is considered a beneficial virus to have had
this is only suggested if you are a non immune adult who has been exposed to
the virus or taken once the rash has erupted to bolster immune response.
Ant
tart - Great remedy for restless children who
fidget a lot and have intense itching that worsens when scratched.
Ant
crud – Sulky
irritable children with a white coated tongue. The sores would be burn and itch
and would be thick with a honey like discharge.
Merc
sol – For any infection of sores, particularly
sores that weep
Loose
clothing
My son has spent the whole week in his
pyjamas, loose but warm cotton clothing that absorb any excess moisture and
breathe easily. It is also soft enough to not irritate any of the sores yet
loose enough to breathe. If your child is still in nappies then give them as
much bare bum time as possible and if they are not dry through the night
instead of putting night nappies on I would put a waterproof layer on the bed
and a couple of towels to absorb any
moisture as nappies can heat the area up and irritate any spots. If you use
cloth then a temporary switch to disposable is advisable.
Colloidal
oats, Avena sativa:
Often Doctors will recommend colloidal
oatmeal in the bath water to resolve itchiness. Rather than buying colloidal
oatmeal it’s a simple matter to grind up some whole oats in your blender or
spice grinder and putting it in the water. I avoid commercial oat, skin
products as these often contain parabens and chemicals. Bog standard oats from
the supermarket are cheap and effective. Don’t use soaps in the oatmeal bath, a
few drops of oil will keep the skin from drying out too much. Remember to
rebalance the Ph afterwards.
Hygiene
Trim the fingernails as soon as the first
blisters appear, and keep the hands clean to prevent infection. For very severe
itching you may want to gently bandage the hands at night and keep your
children distracted during the day with gentle but engaging physical activity,
puzzles, activity toys and art are ideal - things that keep the hands busy. My
son found baths really helpful so I moved a plastic tub into the lounge for him
to bathe in, it kept him in the family space so he wasn’t alone and allowed me
to keep an eye on him.
Stage
three, crusting.
Once all of the blister have crusted your
children are no longer contagious. This does not mean you can just leave them
to it. This is the worst stage for scratching and scarring.
To help with itching you can continue to
use the remedies above but if you notice any slow healing spots you can use
Vitamin E or Calendula oil to help out, just dabbed on the spots.
Things
to avoid:
Calamine -this is a mixture of zinc oxide
and ferric oxide that can be purchased over the counter at most pharmacies. It
is quite drying and can cause scarring. It has no active medical properties
except as an antipruretic to relieve itching. I avoid this as it will not help
the pox heal.
Gentian violet -also known as Methyl violet
it is a triarylmethane dye that has antibacterial, antifungal and anthelmintic
properties. As a topical application it can help prevent infection and heal up
sores without the sting associated with other applications. But it is also
messy and can stain skin or even tattoo open wounds. It has also been linked to
cancer in lab animal testing.
Tight clothing and hair in the face - keep
hair tied back and clothing loose, anything tight or constricting can irritate
the sores. Vigorous hair brushing is also a bad idea as it can burst any
blisters on the scalp..
Junk food - nutritionally void food and
simple carbohydrates that are high in arginine will hinder recovery.
Over bathing - his will change the skin Ph,
baking soda baths without redressing the balance are a big no no.
Vigorous towel drying - this can burst the
blisters. Sun drying is the very best but the next best is wrapping gently in a
towel and getting your children to lie or sit still until they are bone dry
before dressing.
Febrifuges like paracetamol and nurofen,
these will inhibit your immune response which is the opposite of what you want
to happen.
Recovery
Once the spots start to fade you may notice a boost in their demeanour and a development leap. This is normal and rather lovely.
Hopefully the threat of Pox isn't as intimidating as it was previously with this resource on hand.
Friday, September 21, 2012
How to save $7379 in the first year of your baby’s life.
Having babies is expensive, however I
tentatively put forwards that we make them more expensive than they need to be.
Every baby forum, store, website and magazine seems to have a list as long as
your arm telling you what you ‘need’ to buy. But with a little restraint and a
little creativity you can avoid buying most of these must have ‘necessities’.
Now I am not saying you have to parent frugally if you don’t want to and I
imagine there are a load of things you are looking forwards to buying, also, what
one person finds useful another will find useless. Nor is this a list of
commandments, choose to utilise or ignore my advice as you decide. But this is
me telling you that you don’t have to buy all of the things. You can get by with
less and not miss it, if you choose to.
Nappies
Most people know you can save money by
going cloth with nappies, just one nappy can save you approximately $320 per
year. There is a little problem in that once people go cloth they fall into a
wormhole of cute MCN madness and buy ALL OF THE NAPPIES. If you can avoid this
trap and stick to prefolds or old fashioned flats then you can save a bundle.
The saving schedule for this one is a little complex and includes calculations
for savings over 3 years vs outlay, laundry costs versus disposal cost and
purchase cost for nappies. The figure reached is approximate based on
information provided by Nudey Rudey.
Cost for disposable $4510 Cost for cloth
$595 (calculated over a 3 year
period)
$3915 SAVED
No Nappies
If you decide to give Elimination
Communication a go you won’t even need nappies or you could certainly get by
with less. If you are doing dedicated EC you would need a potty, no more than 5
cloth nappies and some baby knickers or baby training pants.
Cost for cloth $595 Cost for EC $85
$510 SAVED
While we are on the topic of nappies and
changing, babies don’t need to have a change table. It might be useful to store
nappies in, but an old basket will do just as well for that. We change our son
on the floor or bed, it’s safer and cheaper. You can use a change mat, or even
an old towel will do.
Cost of nappy change table $479 Cost of
change mat $29
$450 SAVED
Wipes
Wipes are one of the highest nappy rash
factors, to save your baby’s bum and your wallet Instead you can buy a couple
of sets of facecloths and use warm water for changes.
Cost for commercial wipes $622 Cost for
facecloths $30 (calculated over 3 years)
$592 SAVED
Nappy bag
Purpose made nappy bags are handy, the
really fancy ones are a fashion statement and a convenient carry all for baby
related stuff. But you don’t need them. A large purse, existing back pack or
sturdy shopping bag will do. You can put your nappy related stuff in a handy
plastic ziplock back and tuck it into whatever you currently use. I have made
an art of not needing a bulky nappy bag, it means I can get around a lot more
easily
Cost of nappy bag $140 Cost of no nappy bag
$0
$140 SAVED
Stroller
Strollers are handy, I used our stroller
almost every day for nap time. But they are usually expensive (Between $299-$1300
for sturdy ones) and they are not essential. I know that is a huge paradigm
shift for most parents but since I ditched the stroller I have found getting
around easier, more comfortable and much quicker. If you get a baby carrier
instead, which range in cost from $80-$230 you can save yourself some dollars
and get some nice one on one time with your baby, it also means you can get to
a lot of places much more easily than parents who are trying to wrangle a
stroller.
Cost of stroller $399 Cost of baby carrier
$120
Milk
I get it, breastfeeding is not for everyone
and for some of us it can be hard hard work. But if you can get the support you
need and work through any issues then it can be a huge cost saver. Most women
don’t have to increase their diet much if at all to account for the extra 300
calories used to make breastmilk and even then it’s just another sandwich and
some fruit. If you avoid the need for pumping you save any more. Most nursing
mothers need nothing more than some loose comfortable tops, some reusable
nursing pads and a really great nursing bra or two. When you compare this with
the cost of formula, bottles and steriliser it’s a big saving.
Cost of formula and equipment $1429 Cost of
breastfeeding $195
$1234 SAVED
Nursing or feeding cushion
Any old pillow will do, or even better use
nursing techniques that don’t require cushions. If you are bottle feeding,
instead of propping you can hold your baby.
Cost for specialised nursing cushion $109
Cost for existing cushion $0
$109 SAVED
Baby food
Babies need to eat at some stage, this is
true. But they don’t need to eat as early as 4 months and they don’t need pre
packaged food. You can skip the puree stage altogether and at $1.50 per jar
that’s not small change. Babies can eat what you eat or you can make your own
puree for them if you are taking that route. Overall a much cheaper proposition
by up to half the cost of pre prepared baby food.
Cost for packaged baby food $864 Cost for
home made baby food $432
$432 SAVED
Bouncer/Walker/ Jolly Jumper/ Entertainment
unit
Okay well the last one was a joke, kind of.
I was in a baby store the other day and saw a wiggling, jiggling, music
playing, hypnotising strap in baby pod. I had flashbacks to the matrix. Now
babies do love to be jiggled, sung to and held it’s true but you don’t need to
buy something to do it.You may want to, but if you are money conscious you
don’t have to, and there is actually plenty of evidence that indicates a lot of
these things can be developmentally inappropriate or downright dangerous. Best
to skip them or if you really want a baby gym then a string tied between some
furniture with socks or pegs hanging off of it is just as exciting.
Cost of bouncer or equivalent unit $149
Cost of alternative $0
$149 SAVED
Shoes
Babies don’t need shoes. Shoes will not
help them walk faster or better. Shoes DO make great chew toys, they are
excellent at falling off of feet and making your child’s journey from rolling
to crawling and sitting a little more cumbersome
Cost of shoes $80 Cost of no shoes $0
$ 80 SAVED
Clothes
Okay you got me, babies probably DO need
clothes, but I bet they don’t need as many as you have bought. For newborns,
the best way to regulate temperature and keep baby content and protected is to
wear them close to you and to wear them skin to skin. Wearing a baby means less
layers and less clothes overall. Especially in newborn sizes. Babies also don’t
need to be changed and bathed every day. Layers close to the skin can be left
on for up to 3 days or more barring any poosplosions.
Cost of full layette for newborn baby $199
Cost of baby basics $100
$99 SAVED
Eating utensils
If you are skipping the puree at early ages
you can ditch the special plastic weaning spoons, you can also skip the food
storage containers and food bowls. If you choose to do baby led weaning then
the only utensils baby needs are known as ‘left’ and ‘right’ and they have five
fingers each. When your miniature gourmand moves on to cutlery there is nothing
wrong with the family cutlery, family plates and family cups. Learning to drink
from a cup is a steep learning curve but it is surprisingly quickly mastered if
you just let them have at it and accept a short period of mess. If you really
must have a sippy cup you can jerry rig one out of a mason jar and a straw or
use your own reusable eco coffee cup.
Cost of full utensil and dish set with
sippy cup $59 Cost of eco cup and existing foodware $7
$52 SAVED
Bibs
You know what works just as well as a bib?
A teatowel and a peg. High tech I know but you should try it one day!
Cost of bib set $30 Cost of existing
teatowels $0
$30 SAVED
Highchair or specialised seat
It’s often assumed that a high chair is
essential to feeding your baby, but they are not. Especially if you are using
baby led weaning, a rug on the floor is sufficient. Highchairs are really only
essential if you are starting to feed your child before they are able to sit
unsupported and even if you are doing this there is nothing wrong with sitting
your baby on your lap, at the table and feeding them this way. If you are handy
with a sewing machine you could even sew a strap in seat for the family dining chairs.
We have a high chair, but 90% of the meals are eaten on the floor on a kai mat.
Easy as and much less cleaning.
Cost of high chair $199 Cost of washable
rug $24
$175 SAVED
Toys
Babies don’t need toys, they don’t need
flashing lights, canned music or bright colours. A full toy box does not
necessarily indicate a happy engaged child. Babies are happy exploring anything
really and can learn more about the worlds from an interesting stone or a bowl
of water than they can from the latest gee gaw. Before toys became a commercial
endeavour babies played with piles of stones, they emptied out the pot cupboard
and explored the wooden spoons. Mums scarf collection became a sensory
adventure and dads tie collection became a visual smorgasbord. Entertain your
tot with a bowl full of pegs or a bowl full of soapy water. Macaroni becomes a
great threading toy and can be eaten later, autumn leaves are a great rustly
toy and can be composted. An afternoon strolling at the beach can fill a toybox
with wonders that can be returned to the ocean when we are finished. And don’t
feel that you are depriving your child with less toys. There is every reason to
believe that the opposite is true.
Cost of a range of toys and toybox $299
Cost of home made toys $0
$299 SAVED
Skincare
There is a perfect skincare regime for
babies, it’s called use-nothing and water. When babies are born they come with
their own protective layer, they don’t need a hasty bath. Later on they only
really need to be bathed if they have had a poosplosion and in almost all cases
water will suffice. A little sensitive or natural bar soap is sufficient to
remove any stubborn grime and if their skin needs moisturising then a skin
friendly carrier oil will do. Olive oil is fine and most people have that in
their pantry.
Cost of skincare range $39 Cost of water
and olive oil $3
$36 SAVED
Bath
I don’t know about you but bathing a baby
in a baby bath is a pain in the neck, or back to be more precise. I prefer to
just hop into the big bath with baby when I have my own bath experience. If
baby really needed a clean when I wasn’t going to bathe then a washing tub
bucket or sink worked just as well.
Cost of baby bath $20 Cost of using
existing bath, bucket or sink $0
$20 SAVED
Co-sleeping
Sharing a room is a good money saver, and
here is why. Setting up a separate baby nursery has a lot of cost involved.
Some people go all out and gussy up a room for baby and others simply put a cot
in the spare room but most people stand somewhere in the middle and do a little
decorating to make a special space for baby. But here is a newsflash, the most
special place for baby is next to you. That’s what they love the most. But
that’s not the only benefit from sharing a sleeping space. Moving the cot into
the master bedroom means you can ditch the baby monitor as well as any extra
baby related furniture. It also means you are heating one room instead of two
so you can save on power bills as well.
Cost of nursery décor, baby monitor and
heating $1689 Cost of co-sleeping $0
$1689 SAVED
Bassinet
If you’re planning to sleep baby in their
own space you should know that a bassinet is not essential. It’s a nice to
have, but babies can progress straight to a cot. They don’t need a bassinet and
at a pinch, if you really want baby to sleep in a smaller space initially then
a banana box made up with a well fitted mattress is perfectly safe. I can hear
a collective gasp, but this method is approved by the NZ Parent Centre and if
you have nothing else then why not?
Cost of bassinet plus bedding $339 Cost of
no bassinet $0
$339 SAVED
Bed sharing
Bed sharing isn’t for everyone; I prefer my
own sleeping space even though our second son had a different plan. For many
bed sharing is a safety issue, there is however plenty of science to indicate
that bedsharing is just as safe, if not safer than isolated cot sleeping. If
you choose to bedshare it means you don’t need to buy a cot and if the family
bedding is safe then you don’t need to buy any baby blankets. Because you are
close enough to regulate and monitor your child’s breathing you also don’t need
a breathing alarm system.
Cost of cot, mattress, bedding and sleep
alarm. $1600 Cost of bedsharing $0
$1600 SAVED
Carseat
This is one area where you shouldn’t
economise. Don’t get a second hand or expired seat, don’t buy an unknown or
unrated brand and certainly don’t do without. For the safety of your child you
should buy your seat brand new and get one that rear faces until at least 2
years of age.
As soon as I post this I expect a barrage
of people telling me that they personally didn’t spend as much as I have
estimated or that with a little ingenuity you can build, beg or borrow any
number of these things. Which is totally true, I myself have done this. Using
this tactic it’s totally possible to compress the numbers I have estimated
somewhat which is another excellent way of saving dollars. The idea of this
post is to question the assumptions of need vs want and hopefully offer up
alternatives previously unthought of by most. Ideally this post is to
acknowledge that to parent well you don’t need things to do this and that the
most valuable ‘thing’ you can offer is closeness to your child.
Methodology
Methodology
I sourced my prices from NZ based websites
and stores. If there was a price range from very cheap to very expensive I
tried to pitch close to the middle or median price range. For things like
nappies where there is an initial outlay I made a comparison over the expected
life span of the products but the final figure calculated for the title of the
post was for one year only so in the instance of longer estimations I simply
divided the final figure by the number of years I extrapolated for. In some instances
you could spend less and in some instances you could spend more but the general
figures are based on common prices for common purchases. When there was an
option of picking between two kinds of cost saving exercises I chose the most
socially acceptable to get to my final figure. In this instance it was cloth
nappies and co-sleeping vs Elimination Communication and bedsharing. The final
figure if you chose the latter options was $9498. In the instance of
breastfeeding I elected not to assume that pumping was a necessary part
breastfeeding. I did this because quite simply it isn’t, and often it is a
marketing tactic to imply that breastpumps are essential to good parenting and
successful breastfeeding. Which can more often than not lead to unnecessary
outlay of money and breastfeeding failure. If you wanted to add pumping to the
breastfeeding equation the figure is approximately $390 including bottles, steriliser
and pump.
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